7 tips to discover how to last longer in bed (for men)
Warning: Before trying any of these techniques, make sure to communicate well with your partner. Consent is great, especially in bed.
Facts:
- Cut down on your meat intake. A Yale study found that meat-eating athletes have less endurance than their vegetarian counterparts, and endurance in bed is essential.
- Sex is the number one activity that brings the most stimulation, more than any other.
- According to sex coach, Catherine Toyooka 1 , men will benefit by changing their bedtime habits. Don't just lie there; stop, tease, and keep going.1, Men will benefit by changing their bedtime habits. Don't just lie there; stop, tease, and keep going.
- Finding a regular sex partner is a great way to improve your performance in the bedroom.
Penis size and sex are the two things that make a man the most insecure. While men can’t change the size of their penis, they can control the duration of sex and the bedroom is probably the number one place where a male wants to perform. Finishing first is a need that most people want to fulfill but not when it comes to intimate relationships. Premature ejaculation is not a rare occurrence2; most men will suffer from it in their lifetime. According to Dr. Randy Olson, a senior data scientist at the University of Pennsylvania, most men last about six minutes.
Most men have their own tricks to last longer; thinking about sports as well as politics, but while they are thinking about something else, they are distracted from their partner.
The statistics can be daunting for both men and women, but this article will help you learn more about how to increase performance through two different techniques; physical and psychological.
The physical technique focuses more on the sensations of the body while the psychological part targets the mind as well as stress relief to increase the duration.
Here are 7 tips to help you #lastlongerinbed
Study the Kama Sutra
According to AL Haper3, a sex expert from a British men's magazine, there is a technique in the book that will teach you how to train yourself to last longer in bed by delaying climax. The technique gives you tips on how to train yourself to last longer. First, you start slowly with one stroke in and out every three seconds. When you get the basics, add more strokes until you are moving one stroke per second. When you feel like you are going to cum, stop, keep it in your partner until you feel in control and let it all begin. There are 64 different positions in the Kama Sutra, and this is one of the many to last longer in bed.
Be healthy
Cut down on alcohol and drugs; your health will improve and therefore help your ejaculatory control. If you are a heavy coffee drinker, cut down, as caffeine will increase your heart rate and make you get aroused too quickly in the bedroom, which is one of the many causes of premature ejaculation. Practice meditation and breathing techniques; this will give you better control over your mind, but also your body, and reduce the risk of depression and stress.
Relax your body. One position to be more relaxed is to lie on your back and your partner is on top of you. You can easily breathe deeper and find control.
Relax your mind. According to therapists, if you think you are going to ejaculate too quickly, it will happen eventually. Be positive, trust yourself. If you have had a lot of stress during the day, relax before having sex. It will make a big difference.
Use a long-lasting vaporizer
If you are still having problems in bed, you might consider using a "delay spray" like Shunga's Spray which you can buy online for $28.95.
A spray duration designed to increase the duration of pleasure for both partners, it works gently and subtly and numbs the most sensitive areas of the penis, effectively decreasing dramatic sensation and preventing premature ejaculation.
The “squeeze” technique
Sexual Insufficiency in Men by WH Masters and VE Johnson5 recommends the "squeeze technique" which requires you to learn to control the sensations just before ejaculation. This involves squeezing the tip of the penis before orgasm for thirty seconds, which reduces the impulse to ejaculate. Do this at least five times during sex until you no longer need to delay your orgasm.
Repeat this system for several months until you gain complete control over your orgasm threshold.
Condoms
Many condom companies make thicker condoms that act like the "squeeze" motion and desensitize your member. Manufacturers like Trojan and Durex offer these types of condoms, and when shopping, look for terms like "prolonged pleasure" and "more performance."
Preliminaries
Increase your stimulation with foreplay. By slowly building up your sexual arousal, you allow your penis to adjust to the stimulation and when it's time for sex, your member is fully ready.
Ask for help
If you feel like you've tried everything, seek professional advice. First, tell your doctor about your problem and he or she will refer you to a urologist or sex therapist who will guide you.
Even if it happens to you a few times, be honest with your partner and tell her that you need to slow down. Take your time, focus on her, stimulate her orally or manually, and this will show your partner that you are sexually confident and that you are more interested in her than your male ego. Premature ejaculation is not embarrassing, the lack of intimacy and sexual connection is what makes it weird. A research from Winona State University showed that men think that the longer sex is the better it is, but women don't think that way; focus your attention on her if you are having difficulty and take care of her enjoyment.
It's not easy being a man who can't last in bed and many of them give up, but YOU won't give up, because if the duration of the relationships is prolonged, it is a good thing for both partners since it increases intimacy, communication but also the construction of a healthier relationship.
Bonus tip:
Have you been looking everywhere for tips for men to last longer in bed and don’t think we’ve covered it all in our article? Here’s a bonus tip that will teach you how to train yourself to last longer in bed!
Kegel exercises for men! Training your pelvic muscles will not only help you last longer in bed, but it will also make your orgasms more intense. In some cases, men can have an orgasm without even ejaculating. If you are wondering how to contract your pelvic muscle, just think of it as trying to stop yourself from peeing.
Once you understand how to contract your MP, you just have to start training it. Like any other workout, you will have to complete "sets". There are several training proposals online but this technique is the best known:
- Start by contracting your pelvic muscle for 4 seconds and then releasing for 2 seconds. (Repeat 5 times)
- Contract and hold for 10 seconds, then take a 5 second break. (Repeat 5 times)
- Finally, contract and release quickly 10 times.
All you have to do is repeat this process until you feel like you cannot complete the exercise.
If you want to take your kegel training to the next level, there are many apps available for both Apple and Android products. Kegel trainer is one of the most popular apps, it will make your workout much easier with different exercises, timers, and even levels to complete.
Once you've completed all of your training, it's time to put your new skills to the test! All you need to do is take the time to complete one of the exercises mentioned above before you get too close to orgasm. Don't be afraid to let your partner know what techniques you'll be using, they'll be able to give you the time you need to control yourself.
When it comes to orgasm without ejaculation, all you have to do is contract your pelvic muscle as hard as you can as you begin to orgasm. It may take some practice but eventually you will be able to achieve orgasm multiple times without ejaculating.
To improve your orgasm, you will need to use the same technique mentioned above for as long as possible and then release the tension when you are ready to orgasm. This will make your orgasms longer and more intense.