BDSM guide to ropes, handcuffs and other restraints for beginners and experienced alike.
Touch, hold and attach with dominance
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Days go by, and repeat themselves. You work, you come home, you sleep with your partner, and another day has just ended. Here is what I suggest to take your mind off things, a good controlled and of course consenting BDSM game.
While this may seem unexpected or ambiguous, it is a completely normal reaction. In fact, BDSM is a world that is only known to a portion of the population. By our society's standards, pain and submission can be seen as unhealthy and vicious practices. Some people would even consider it criminal. However, people who engage in BDSM have jobs, families, and friends. Perhaps we should put our preconceived ideas and prejudices aside?
Is this really weird?
Maybe our way of making love is not the best, even though it is conventional? What good do practitioners, and at the same time believers, get from these sexual mores? What drives them to be so reckless in matters of sexuality? If you are curious to know the answers to these questions, then we invite you to take an exciting step into this world that is BDSM.
In the next pages we will learn about its origins, the most popular practices of naughty suggestions and other interesting information on this subject.
BDSM, an endearing story?
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First of all, just so you have a better idea of what it is, just take the first letter of the words " bondage ", " domination ", " sadism " and " masochism ", and put them together, BDSM.
In fact, the term and the first works on sadomasochism began with the Enlightenment philosopher Donatien Alphonse François de Sade. In fact, one of his most famous works is called The 120 Days of Sodom, a story of fetish desires, and anal sex, it seems, between two characters, Justine and Juliette.
In fact, according to the website The Harvard Crimson, Sade used the acronym SM (sado and maso) in his works. Moreover, it was only later that it appeared in research and scientific studies, and this by the very famous psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud (Psychology Today:
Similarly, Richard von Krafft-Ebing, from the same profession, Freud sees sadomasochism as a repression of our desires. It would therefore be a way of bringing out what would inhabit or eat away at us inside.
Furthermore, like many people, you have probably already heard of this sexual practice as being sometimes brutal, perverse or even marginal. Obviously, it involves the use of rather unconventional objects, including the whip, the face harness, the chastity belt, the handcuffs and many others. You should know that the goal of BDSM is not to put the lives of others in danger. It is a role play in which there is one or more dominant people accompanied by one or more submissive people.This would sexually excite all the participants involved. In fact, it is important to understand that tastes vary from one individual to another, and that you may find this absurd, or exciting. Let me share something with you. From my point of view, I would like my lover to tie me up, sensually, of course, that this same person give me orders, a little daring, and make me live a unique sexual experience, don't you? If yes, then you are eligible and ready to do BDSM.
BDSM: two techniques and their tools
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Bondage
Of Japanese origin, this technique consists of tying up the submissive person before proceeding with sexual acts. In other words, the dominant person of the duo or group must use preferably long objects to restrict their movements, and obviously make them suffer a certain amount of pain.
To do this, I suggest you use objects to bind such as handcuffs, which could be a good choice for playing role-playing games such as policewoman-prisoner or hostage-criminal, interesting activities to do in a group. There are also scarves that can very well be used as a rope, besides, winter is fast approaching. It may be an opportunity to enjoy the pleasures of the season, or even Christmas. (Treat yourself ladies, tie up your man, show him how to keep warm) Finally, if you want to increase the level of Sado masochism, try straps, which are very strong ropes specially designed to tie up your partner, he or she would be yours, whether this person wants it or not.
Ainsi, si nous parlons de la manière de les utiliser, nous pouvons penser à un attachement au niveau des pieds, aux poignets, de la tête ou même du sexe. En effet, selon le confort de vous et de votre partenaire, vous pouvez serrer fort la ou les cordes. Sinon, je voudrai ajouter que le BDSM est un jeu de rôle entre personnes consentantes. En d’autres mots, il faudra se communiquer avant même de vous lancer dans cette petite escapade sexuelle.
For the masters of this art, which is bondage, it is possible to suspend one's partner in the air, obviously, with the help of ropes. In this way, the submissive person would be totally taken by surprise, in the clutches of his/her lover until orgasm comes.
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- Suggested items: rope, handcuffs, strap, scarf, belt, adhesive tape (shave…), etc.
- Techniques: tied partner on the bed, in the living room, on the kitchen table, in the garage, etc. (You can never be better served than at home, personally) There are even BDSM clubs if you do a little research.
- Personal suggestion: Go gradually, to start. For example, tie the feet so that the person can no longer escape. Then, go slowly at the wrists, something you could do while sliding your lips to his neck. By the time this is done, your partner will have already acquired a taste for the game. Get a few dirty words out of your mouth, and tie other parts of the body with a little more force, and sensuality. (Make him cum on a few occasions) Then, let yourself go completely to your role play. Finally, end it in an intense sex session with your partner, still tied up.
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XNUMX) Flogging
For this to be possible and most effective, you will need to use objects such as the very popular: the riding crop, the cane and the stick. Some of these objects can be equipped with strings or small ropes. According to the BDSM info website ( http://www.bdsminfo.org/accueil.php?page=f51basecravache ), these sticks are really effective. To use it, simply hit the non-sensitive parts of your partner so that he or she feels the blow, and certainly, the pain. In addition, you can ask your wife to play the strict and sex-hungry teacher, who spanks you in a very daring way, by instance. (Don't forget to ask her to give you small well-placed and quick blows, just enough to make you scream a little.)
The places that we can consider tapping vigorously and passionately are usually the buttocks, breasts and legs. (In short, the meat) Just repeat the blow in the same place so that it becomes just red enough. Some people prefer a quick and sharp blow to make your lover scream. It is obviously advisable to avoid hitting the private parts (don't even think about it) or important parts of the body, such as the eyes (yes ...), the tips of the breasts, the spine, etc. We must not lose sight of the fact that BDSM is a role play that must provide sexual pleasure. We can consider it as a complement to sex sessions with your partner. Moreover, flagellation can be combined with other sadomasochistic techniques (bondage, mask, harness, etc.), and with several sexual practices (fellatio, penetration, sodomization, etc.) Let yourself go to the game and bring out the vicious in you, and you will see very exciting and satisfying results. Free yourself, that's BDSM.- .
- Suggested items: Cane, walking stick, whip, bamboo stick, 1 meter wooden ruler (like in school), etc.
- Techniques: Spanking or being spanked in bed, on a chair, on your legs, on the floor, etc.
- Personal suggestion: After you have melted into the role you have been assigned, start the blows with your hands, preferably. Go with small naughty blows, while calling or mistreating your partner a bad person, and increase the force of the blows.
(little by little, you will make him/her cum)
- Talking to your partner in bed about your desire for role play
- After accepting the game, tell him the role you would like to play.
- XNUMX) Before even starting the erotic scene, you can obviously already caress and kiss each other (just to start a fire).
- XNUMX) When it is -warm-, tell him to wait, and go get the desired items.
- One of the secrets of BDSM is to talk and make sex -seem- forced.
- Always keeping in mind that you have to get sexually excited, play your part.
- If possible, interchange bad words, body blows and caresses or penetrations. (Be creative; show him that you are the master or mistress of the game)